Posts by 2escaped lifers

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my first post

by new light in

well, after lurking here for about 3 weeks, i finally registered and decided to "join the club.

" reading your posts has really been a great help in continuing on the path i know to be right.

a little history if you'll bear with me.... born and raised a jw....baptized at 13, df'ed at 16. i've been reinstated for two years.

2escaped lifers

Welcome!!! So glad you decided to post.

Best regards,

Brandon

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Unofficial Poll: Testing Tonight's 60 Minutes Update

by bisous in

jw
friends

unofficial poll: testing tonight's 60 minutes update

Letter to Mom and Dad opinions wanted

by freelife in

jw
friends

hello friends, i wanted to post this here and get some opinions on it before i take the big step of sending it to my parental units.

dear mom and dad,

dad i was surprised to hear from you the other day.

We are in a very similar situation to yours. I am so sorry you are going through this relationship "limbo" with your family as well. Both my parents and my wife's parents have basically told us that they will not associate with us anymore, but then, as you mention in your letter, they contact us at their convenience, to ask to keep the kids, or just to check up on us. We have been discussing how to handle this, and have just about decided to go ahead and tell them what you have just written in your letter. We can't think of any other reasonable way to handle the situation. It is tearing us all apart, as both families were very close.

I think your letter is kind and considerate, but your stand is plainly stated. It is a very courageous move you are making, and we will probably have to take the same stand. Not knowing exactly where we stand with our parents at any given time is just not worth it.

I wish you and your new family well, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!!

Best regards,

Brandon Bartlett

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How big was your book bag?

by 2escaped lifers in

jw
friends

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all you ex-"brothers": was this just in my area (north alabama), or do any of you remember there being an unstated, but real nonetheless, pecking order amongst the brothers that correlated the size of your meeting briefcase/bookbag to your level of spirituality?.

don't know why i was thinking about this today.... brandon

2escaped lifers

Greetings,

All you ex-"brothers": Was this just in my area (North Alabama), or do any of you remember there being an unstated, but real nonetheless, pecking order amongst the brothers that correlated the size of your meeting briefcase/bookbag to your level of spirituality?

Don't know why I was thinking about this today...

Brandon

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How would a JW list in order ...

by Will Power in

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friends

how would a jw put in order of importance, priority, loyalty

would the list on paper be different than that actually practiced?

jehovah

2escaped lifers

I am sooo sorry. I misunderstood too. It IS worse you being the wife. Even being raised in it, I still had a hard time swallowing their "BE SUBMISSIVE" crap. My husband and I knew each other for 5 years before we fell in love and got married. We had a wonderful friendship, beyond the love, but that all changed right after we got married. We had fights about the most stupid things!!!! I couldn't even make a suggestion as to where to eat without a discussion on "me knowing my place" or "usurping his headship". It got so bad that I just didn't want to open my mouth so as not to start anything.

We made it 12 years and have now made it OUT together but it was only recently that I found out what had changed. Get this..... The night before our wedding, Mickey Cochran, an elder, pulled Brandon aside and told him that because I was intelligent, and independant, that Brandon would have to "keep a tight rein on me" so as not to allow me to "get out of line". I was furious!!!!! Now we are back to the way it was, but it took LEAVING to make it so.

Obviously, you have posted and read the experiences here. Please know that you have the support of everyone .

(((((((((((((((((WP))))))))))))))))))))))

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3-27 & 28 2004 Child Abuse Conference Nashville Tennessee

by blondie in

silentlambs summit .

march 27-28, 2004 .

nashville, tn .

2escaped lifers

Sounds great. Just to clarify though, it will be EX- JWs not JWs wanting reform?

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Hello

by Octavia in

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friends

is this jehovah's witnesses annonymous?

hi... i'm octavia, and i'm an ex-jehovah's witness.

2escaped lifers

welcome, welcome, WELCOME!!!!!!!!! Our numbers are growing !!! My husband and I left together this summer but have been in the process for about 2 years.

So are you puternuts gf or not??? inquiring minds want to know

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My parents are out...

by one_ugly_time in

i have finally confirmed that my parents da'd about 2 years ago.

they haven't told me or talked to me about it.

i found out through my aunt, and confirmed it through my oldest brother who was just visiting them.. it's a big step in the right direction.

2escaped lifers

Yaaaaaaay!!! Congrats!! I hope everything can be put aside and you all get a new beginning. I wish it were our families. My parents and sister are still yelling at me for inferring that their wrong. My husbands parents skirt the issue to the point of these long awkward silent moments in the conversation where there once were comments on the meetings or service etc.....

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